Here’s an anecdote…
A woman gets a tattoo with her name on it. There’s a deep symbolic meaning as to why she got it. (As all tattoos should be!)
This woman then proceeds to become a mother three times. Her body is pulled and stretched in many miraculous directions. After the birth of her third child, she notices that the ink has also shifted, and her name is no longer legible. She’s distraught.
While I totally can appreciate the dismay at the lost artwork (I have four tats of my own), I would like to lovingly suggest to remember that you have created works of art in your own right, far more precious than what happened in that parlor next to the stainless steel gauges.
Always the poet, I see another symbolism in the fact that it was her name that got distorted. Yes, she knows what it was, but it’s changed.
Doesn’t that happen to you when you become a parent? Yes, you still remember your old self, but once you have children, you are never again the same. Like that misshapen tattoo, our essential self is indelible. We retain our essence throughout our lives. However, our parenting selves cause us to view — and be viewed by — the world in a new way.
So if “Ashley” morphs into “Maybe” or “Michael” is deciphered as “Nipple,” I’d look to the deep metaphor that like a tattoo, our children mark us forever.
Make the #153Promise to celebrate the way your children have changed your ink.