A colleague of mine came into school yesterday with some new bling. She and her boyfriend have been dating for seven years and they’ve been discussing marriage; even to the point of looking at houses. So she knew “The Day” was coming… just not when.
As it turns out, he was being stealthy, planning something before the holidays. Nice. She was truly surprised and she showed me the great photos- complete with rose petals and the backdrop of Central Park.
I told her that she would be the inspiration for my post today, since I figure that a lot of proposals would be happening this holiday week.
I know it’s tempting to rush out and get wedding planning books, bride magazines, and begin calling around to find just the right venue. However, I am going to strongly suggest the FIRST item you buy is this great book:
There’s also a workbook that comes along with it you can buy. It’s well written — intelligent but digestible — and if you like his stuff, he’s got many more books about marriage, parenting, and emotional intelligence.
Because while the trappings of a wedding can be very seductive, once all the cake has been eaten and people finally take your “Save the Date” postcard magnet off the fridge, you’re left with this person you married.
The topic of how to raise children may not be the first thing couples talk about when deciding whether or not to tie the knot, but it’s important to keep in mind why your are making this commitment… presumably to have a family and create a stable environment for your children.
So to all those people who’ve popped or been popped to… Congratulations!
Now make the 153Promise to each other and your future family by digging a solid foundation to the life you are seeking to build.