I’d like to build upon yesterday’s post about parenting styles.
It’s not as easy as checking one box and moving forward. We are human beings, and we can’t be lumped into all one category- there’s bleed over from one style to another.
Similarly, there’s times in life where a person could actually benefit from an Authoritarian upbringing (military) or Permissive (artist).
And of course, we are all human, so we may try as hard as we can, but we’re bound to make mistakes. Even the most balanced, kind-yet-firm Authoritative parent may have a short fuse one day, and snap. They most likely will apologize to the child afterward, but what if that child’s memory bank stores THAT moment as one of the top moments in their recall?
Let’s face it: no matter how hard we try, we have to reconcile that when our kids grow up, they most likely will realize that our parenting played a crucial role in who they are. And since nobody’s perfect, they also will most likely credit us with their shortcomings.
So the big question is: what mistakes are you willing to make?
We all know the saying, “There’s no use crying over spilt milk.” Yes, it’s true that once a mistake is made, perseverating over the issue will not clean it up. But first, you must acknowledge that there is a mess to clean up. Then you grab a sponge and move forward.
Today, make the 153Promise to really take a good, long look at your children and how they are turning out. Pay attention to how they react to a variety of circumstances and be really honest- do I stand by my kids’ behavior? Are they are great example of my parenting so far? Is there any “spilt milk” I need to clean up in my parenting?
Over the weekend, I plan to post about the role we play in our children’s personalities.